Dodging the Truth

/ Tracy Abell

I needed to extricate Zebu from weekly lessons and
thought I was doing instructor and me a favor by dancing around the truth
and instead of saying he’s killed Zebu’s enthusiasm for drums,
saying we needed to take a break for summer because
of various basketball camps and a possible family vacation
which would make it impossible to keep Zebu’s lesson time,
a time slot we originally selected from a whopping two choices,
which clearly proved the man had a full schedule and wouldn’t miss us
and would understand our leaving the fold.

And make my excuse brief and painless.

Except for then he offered to be flexible and drive over to the studio
to suit our schedule since he lives nearby.

Okay, I’ve already learned that lesson about Truth = Best.
Even when that truth is painful.

So why’d I forget today?
            

28 thoughts on “Dodging the Truth”

      • I agree. I want people to be honest with me. I’d much rather have someone say that these lessons aren’t a great fit for my son than to bend the truth to spare my feelings, but I will still do it to others. I just need to have more courage when dealing with people and be less mousey.
        I think this is something that will take me a while to get really and truly better at. It goes against my nature. I need to do it anyway.

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        • Yep, I want the truth from people and then sometimes still slide into Dodgeville just, well, because. I’ve been practicing in my head what to say this afternoon when Zebu goes for final lesson, and wishing over and over I hadn’t gotten myself into this situation.

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  10. I agree. I want people to be honest with me. I’d much rather have someone say that these lessons aren’t a great fit for my son than to bend the truth to spare my feelings, but I will still do it to others. I just need to have more courage when dealing with people and be less mousey.

    I think this is something that will take me a while to get really and truly better at. It goes against my nature. I need to do it anyway.

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  11. I know in the same situation I would’ve done exactly what you did here and gotten burned. It’s a shame the instructor’s so flexible. Why can’t he just repay your desire to avoid hurting him by making this easy and fading away?
    Sorry it didn’t work out but you’re right, it’s a good lesson. One I’ll probably have to learn again and again but a good one!

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    • And it’s still not over since I decided against “coming clean.” He’s going to call in late August to see about getting Zebu schedule again in September. Aargh! I’m so evil!!!!!
      It’s a good lesson for Zebu, too, though. I keep pointing out how all this angst could’ve been avoided if I’d been upfront right from the start. Sigh.

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  12. I know in the same situation I would’ve done exactly what you did here and gotten burned. It’s a shame the instructor’s so flexible. Why can’t he just repay your desire to avoid hurting him by making this easy and fading away?

    Sorry it didn’t work out but you’re right, it’s a good lesson. One I’ll probably have to learn again and again but a good one!

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  13. Makes your insides go hot and cold, doesn’t it? This lesson comes up for me a lot too…I know just how it feels. :O
    But look how open you are to learning it, and that’s just beautiful. 🙂

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    • Thanks for sharing in the pain. It really is a hot/cold sensation.
      I’m definitely open to learning this lesson and REALLY looking forward to the next opportunity to use it (as opposed to this one dragging on and on. See my reply to C.K.)

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  14. Makes your insides go hot and cold, doesn’t it? This lesson comes up for me a lot too…I know just how it feels. :O

    But look how open you are to learning it, and that’s just beautiful. 🙂

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  15. And it’s still not over since I decided against “coming clean.” He’s going to call in late August to see about getting Zebu schedule again in September. Aargh! I’m so evil!!!!!

    It’s a good lesson for Zebu, too, though. I keep pointing out how all this angst could’ve been avoided if I’d been upfront right from the start. Sigh.

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  16. Thanks for sharing in the pain. It really is a hot/cold sensation.

    I’m definitely open to learning this lesson and REALLY looking forward to the next opportunity to use it (as opposed to this one dragging on and on. See my reply to C.K.)

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