Sunday Confessional: Today I’m wishing I could have a do-over

This afternoon I randomly thought about a man I once knew and then looked him up online. Well, I discovered that he’d died about 18 months ago. He used to be married to a friend of mine, but they divorced. The man had done some stuff that ended up being unforgivable. Zippy and I had spent quite a bit of time with both of them as a couple, and we liked the man. He was smart, funny, and always made us feel welcome when we visited. But after the bad stuff came to light, my loyalty was to my friend. The man reached out once, but I didn’t return the call.

I still believe I was right to stand by my friend, but that doesn’t change the fact that I’m now wishing I’d tried to communicate with him at some point. The thing is, my friend and I aren’t really in touch anymore so this news makes it feel as if I’ve lost two friends.

But, as Billy Wilder said, “Hindsight is always twenty-twenty.”

Because he loved these flowers.



2 thoughts on “Sunday Confessional: Today I’m wishing I could have a do-over

  1. This is so sad. It’s a strong lesson for others to remember when friends of theirs break up. We must always try to be kind to one another, and sometimes that means playing both sides. But it’s the kindness that matters, and the lack of it that we might later regret. I know all my biggest regrets come from being some measure of a butthead. All we can do is try to do better next time.


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